I'm no expert, but if you're a newly married queer couple, I have a piece of advice. As soon as you wake up the morning after you get married, jack off immediately. Both of you. Don't let sex get in the way that first morning you spend together. After all, you'll have plenty of time to fool around later. Spend that first morning together just being together without a lot of panting and writhing around. Be civilized, and you can't do that if you're horny.