Date: Sun, 08 Jul 2001 20:29:49 -0700
From: Erik The Red <erik2175@hotmail.com>
Subject: The Penis

Here are some basics that the boy in your life would like you to know. Maybe
it's awkward for him to tell you - maybe there even are some things he
hasn't discovered yet.

Let's begin at the end: the glans. This is the very sensitive end, or tip of
the penis. It's covered by the foreskin in boys who aren't circumcised. The
glans looks and feels unlike skin on any other part of the body: it is soft,
squishy, and the home of the most intense and delightful feelings a boy can
experience. It is so sensitive that the feel of, say, a stream of water from
a showerhead may be too intense to stand for more than a few seconds. Yet
for all its sensitivity, stimulating the glans alone usually does not lead
to orgasm - you need to massage some part of the penis shaft as well.
This means, if you know what you are doing, that you can give very extended
pleasure by massaging the glans. It is so soft that unless it and your
fingers are completely squeaky clean most likely any petting will soon
become irritating. What your guy really wants is a moist massage, either
with saliva or another lubricant. The simplest and one of the greatest
treats you can give him is to moisten your thumb and slowly rub it back and
forth across the head of his penis.
You can do this for ten minutes, twenty minutes, and watch him drift into a
plateau of pleasure, without the tension of an approaching orgasm.
Of course, you can do the same with your lips, though it is almost
impossible to resist the temptation to take more of he penis into your mouth
- and then you're off to the races!
If you're this close you can see some of the unique geography of the glans.
First, it has a grain - small ridges that go fore and aft (away from his
body, rather than side to side). It's usually more comfortable to pet with
the grain, though if you are using lubrication it doesn't much matter.
Second, there are distinct regions on the glans: the very tip, around the
urethra opening ('pee hole'); the twin bulges on the front, separated by a
small cleft; the broad, flat back; and the flared bluish ring where it
connects to the penis, called the corona. The most sensitive parts are the
tip and front. Try gently massaging the front, spending five or ten seconds
on each side, then switching, then spending an equal time on the very tip.
The back is the 'grainiest' region and should be petted front to back. The
tip, just behind the urethra opening, is the best place to get started - a
very good erection stimulator!

Notice that all this is about stimulating the skin of the glans. It is a
soft and delicate region and not meant for deep massaging - too much
pressure doesn't exactly hurt, but it isn't so delightful, and in fact a
good squeeze to the glans is one technique for bringing down an erection.
It really is possible to give very extended pleasure to the glans alone.
This may be very relaxing for your boy, or it may make him desperate for
more - it's a matter of mood! Once you do start to involve the rest of the
penis, things change quite a bit.
Just below the glans on the penis shaft front is the main action area, the
part that is most involved with the intense feelings that cause orgasm and
ejaculation. The penis itself really has two parts, the raised part on the
front through over the urethra, and everything else (sides and back). While
we enjoy stimulation to any part of the penis, it's the front that is the
seat of pleasure. Petting or massaging the back of the penis doesn't do very
much.
The top inch of the front of the penis is the trigger, the part that all
boys first learn to rub when they masturbate, either by an up-and-down
motion (the veritable "jerking off"), or by rubbing side to side. This part
of the penis is sensitive to pressure, rather than surface petting. Once a
boy is fully aroused, even a slight pressure to this part of the penis will
lead up to orgasm. If you are using your hands or lips on his penis, it's up
to you to be sensitive to how much stimulation you are applying here, as
that controls how long the ride will last!
Pressure to the top front of the penis doesn't have to be applied directly,
and this is where the rest of the penis gets involved - and a whole lot
more. Once an erection is full grown, the penis is stretched tight, which
means any pressure along the front or anything pulling at the base will tug
on the top part just as surely as if you were massaging that part directly.
This is something that grows more intense as he comes farther along towards
orgasm: after a few minutes of stimulation, with his penis rock-hard and
pumping from within (more on this later), even a small tug on the scrotum at
the base of the penis can trigger an orgasm.

If you are using your hands, you can continue to massage the glans while
stroking or gently rubbing the front of the shaft. Of course, if you are
using your mouth or taking his penis into your anus, all this happens
automatically - it's exactly what the penis was designed for, and his whole
body will get involved to make sure there is an orgasm soon!
But let's not hurry, please, you have a lot of delightful territory still to
explore. With his penis at 'full attention' you will learn that what you see
is only half the story. The shaft of the penis goes equally deep into his
body, where the right pressure gives long-lasting pleasure without hurrying
to orgasm.
Follow the ridge of the urethra down along the front of the penis, to where
it goes under the scrotum. Massage it from side to side as you move down,
and feel how his erection really extends several inches below the base of
the penis, disappearing into his body below the base of the scrotum. Spend a
few minutes massaging his penis in small circles through the scrotum - once
he is fully aroused, this is a nice place to spend some time. You will
eventually get to a point about an inch below the bottom of the scrotum
where you will feel his penis shaft go 'underground'. Remember this point:
it's an excellent place to apply pressure during orgasm. At this point you
have left the soft tissues of the penis and are feeling muscle. You can
press a lot harder here; a firm push is rewarded by a greater firming of his
erection and a rush of pleasure along the whole penis.
If you have a finger still on his glans (or even if you don't), you should
see a drop of fluid every so often. This is his lubrication, or 'pre-come',
and - I don't have to tell you this, do I? - should be gently massaged into
his glans. (Note for the girls: though this isn't semen, it can potentially
contain sperm, so use whatever precautions are appropriate for full
intercourse.)

You have a hand on his scrotum, or 'balls' - another very interesting place!
The skin of the scrotum is also unique, and quite different from that of the
penis. It has ridges, odor glands, hair, and is exquisitely sensitive,
loving to be stroked and tickled. Hiding inside the scrotum (which by now is
probably firmed up like a little baseball) are the two testicles. At this
point it is probably wise to ask if he likes to have his balls touched or
massaged. Although they have a well-earned reputation as the seat of pain in
the male body, it actually takes quite a bit of pressure to hurt the
testicles - they are really much more sensitive to impact than to pressure.
He may find it exciting to have you massage them, or he may hate it. (Note
to those in long-term relationships, testicle cancer is one of the most
common cancers in boys and it is very treatable - so check for lumps several
times a day!).
If he has never tried it, I strongly recommend removing the hair from the
scrotum, either by shaving, or plucking. As Dr. Evil (Mike Meyers) said in
Austin Powers, 'a shorn scrotum is a thing of beauty.' Removing all the hair
makes the scrotum fantastically soft and much better for petting. Plucking
is by far the best, taking about half an hour. If you shave, use a sharp
double-edged blade and do it dry, with baby powder or cornstarch for a
lubricant. Trim but don't shave the hair at the base of the penis or the top
of the scrotum, as that is the 'load-bearing' area during intercourse, and
any prickles will be a serious problem.
The scrotum is also very temperature-sensitive, acting like a little weather
station. So are the tissues behind it. Cold, in particular, has a dramatic
effect, and if he is up for it, you should try pressing ice into the base of
the scrotum - the sensation is incredible, especially during orgasm.
Where were we? You have a firm finger below his scrotum, where you can feel
his penis pump up when he contracts his muscles (there's some Latin name I
don't remember [pubococcygeus - Ed.]; these are the muscles you strengthen
with 'Kegel' exercises, and most people would likely call them the 'love
muscles'). If he is close to coming, even this pumping may stretch the front
of the penis enough to trigger an orgasm.
Move your fingers down his perineum (the slight ridge between scrotum and
anus). This is a wonderful area to massage. In another inch you reach the
anus, the other focus of erotic pleasure in his body. The skin around anus
is as sensitive as the lips, a place for soft tickling, but able to grip as
firmly as a fist, a place for fucking. Bill Cosby may get mileage out of
fear of anal penetration, but I think 99% of all males love the feel of a
finger in the ass.

Use some of his or your own lubrication to massage his anus. If you wish to,
press firmly and feel it open ever so slightly to allow you to massage the
entire firm sphincter (opening). Slowly or by surprise you can slip a finger
in. There are no more nerve endings past the anus, but the feeling of
stretching and penetration is heady and delightful all in itself.  At this
point you may decide to head farther up to massage his prostate. This is (as
everyone says) a 'walnut-sized gland' about one finger's length in. It is
the true root of the penis, which you have now followed from the delicate
glans, along the soft shaft, down to the muscled base, and deep into his
body. Massaging the prostate enough will usually (not always) trigger
orgasm, a different experience from a purely penis-based orgasm. If you do
this, you will feel the enormous firming and contractions that precede and
accompany ejaculation.  It's time to put him out of his misery. With one
hand pressing against the scrotum or pushing into his anus, and another
massaging the glans and final inch of the penis (or with your mouth doing
the same), 'go for it!'.  There's more you should know about how a boy
works. Erection, orgasm, and ejaculation are all separate mechanisms. They
do not have to accompany each other; the only rule is that orgasm does cause
ejaculation (unless something is medically wrong). In particular, erections
can come and go for no apparent reason, so don't worry if you feel him go
soft once in a while.  We have been talking a lot about the 'primary
erogenous zones', which I hope you now know well. There are of course other
parts of his body that he wants you to pay attention to, such as his nipples
(as sensitive as a woman's, and too often neglected). But there is one
erogenous zone more important than all others, and one you can spend a
lifetime exploring together: his mind. We males love to be touched and
petted and stroked and sucked, but more exciting than all of that is the
thrill of giving pleasure to and sharing pleasure with another person.

OK, that is all I have.  Now go and put my helpful advise to work. And have
fun