Date: Tue, 21 Mar 2023 12:27:26 -0700
From: Steven Clay <stevenclay86@gmail.com>
Subject: How to Use Protocols to Keep a Master-slave Relationship Alive

How to Use Protocols to Keep a Master-slave Relationship Alive
Steven Clay

Guys who know me and my slave often ask how we manage to keep the
Master-slave element of our relationship alive, given that we are also a
married couple and even co-workers.

This is a valid question. Many M/s couples who have been together for quite
some time often run into the problem that the M/s element of their
relationships loses momentum with time, and that "spark" that keeps both
people interested in a kinky relationship in the beginning eventually gives
way to the daily grind of every-day life.

My slave and I have reasons to be worried about this problem as well. After
all, we have a history together before I collared him as my slave. We were
best friends in college and were fraternity brothers. We dated, moved in
together, and later married in our 20s mostly as a vanilla gay couple. Even
though we were both kinky and explored leather and kink together, we only
began seriously exploring becoming Master and slave after we were married
for several years. So our relationship started out in a very different
place before he became my slave.

In addition, by mutual preference, we decided from the very beginning that
we were going to have a relationship "outside" of being Master and slave,
and slave was going to have an identity other than being my slave and owned
property. Me and slave both work as police officers in the Police
Department in the Denver suburb where we live, which means that we spend a
lot of time working together as colleagues during the day. We also have a
lot of hobbies and maintain an active and social lifestyle, which
necessarily means that we spend much of our time "outside" our roles of
being Master and slave.

Yet our bond as Master and slave is as strong as ever, and our interest in
being a M/s couple is just as strong as the day when he knelt before me and
accepted my collar. So how do we do it?

In our experience, the key is protocols and consistency. Over the years, we
developed a useful and practical set of protocols that have been revised
many times to suit our needs and lifestyle, and they serve the crucial
purpose of reinforcing our relationship as that of a Master and his slave.
I see my slave as my owned property - he is not my equal and inferior to me
in status. Even though slave is submissive in nature, he is prone to losing
the proper slave "headspace" in day-to-day life without consistently
enforced protocols that remind him of his status as a slave. The key word
here is "consistently". Many M/s couples have elaborate protocols written
down in their contracts but for one reason or another they are not
consistently observed. Sometimes the protocols are too complicated and
impractical, so they are abandoned quickly. Sometimes people are just lazy
and don't always follow through. My slave and I, on the other hand, are
very diligent about following our protocols and have done so for many
years.

Generally speaking, our protocols, crafted over many trials and errors, are
designed to serve as constant reminders of our roles as Master and slave,
to remind slave of his inferiority to me and his lack of status as a free
man, and to reinforce my control over him as his owner. Although we might
be a married couple and spend much of our days together "appearing" to be
equals, we both understand that he is my slave in every sense of the word
and I have complete control over every aspect of his life - our protocols
are there to make sure neither of us forgets that.

Slave is locked in chastity 24/7 and has been for many years. I do not
believe that slaves should have "normal" orgasms because I believe those
are privileges reserved for free men, so slave's custom steel chastity cage
stays locked except for cleaning or when we fly, during which time slave
wears a plastic cage instead. There are otherwise no exception to this
rule, and I do not allow slave to have "normal" orgasms even as a reward.
Slave is occasionally allowed to ejaculate by anal stimulation under my
express permission, but otherwise has not cum since the day he became my
property. Slave has fully accepted that he will probably never be allowed
to have an orgasm as long as he remains my slave, and he says that his body
has long learned to not to expect it anymore. He believes that it makes him
a better slave because it allows him to focus on my pleasure and the
pleasure of other superior men I order him to serve. I like it myself not
only because I get a slave who is more attentive to my needs, but also
because as a Dominant, I very much enjoy having the power to completely
deny him a basic pleasure that free men take for granted.

Slave is required to address me in specific ways. Generally, when we are
outside, he is allowed to use my name, unless we are with kinky friends who
are aware of our relationship. When we are in private or at home, slave
calls me "Master" at all times. He is expected to speak to me in a
respectful and deferential manner, but is otherwise allowed to speak his
mind. Earlier in our relationship, we experimented with stricter forms of
speech control, such as slave having to ask for permission to speak or
having to begin and end every sentence with "Master", but we abandoned
those practices quickly because we found them to be impractical and
cumbersome. I do still sometimes order "quiet periods" when we are at home,
when slave is not permitted to speak unless I have granted him permission,
but those are rare because most of the time I quite enjoy talking to slave
- he is a good conservationist and always makes me laugh.

Slave is not allowed to wear any clothing when we are at home. I firmly
believe that a slave should be kept naked as much as possible to show his
status as less than a free man, and a Master should be able to enjoy the
view of his slave's naked body at all times. To that end, the only two
things slave wears around the house are his chastity cage and his slave
collar, which stays on and is never unlocked. In practice, this means slave
is expected to strip as soon as he enters the house. In order to facilitate
this rule, we do have to keep the temperature in the house at a comfortable
level throughout the year, and slave is allowed to have a blanket when it
is especially cold in the house. But otherwise this rule has worked well
for us over the years and serves as a constant visual reminder of his
status as a lowly slave.

Slave is expected to greet me at least once a day by getting on his knees,
crawling over to me, and then kissing my feet. Normally, this happens when
we get home from work. As cops, we often work different schedules. When he
is the one who is home first, he is expected to greet me in this manner by
the door. If I am home first, when he comes in he is expected to first
strip, and then find me and crawl over to kiss my feet. Like many M/s
pairs, we experimented with many different ways for slave to display his
submission to me on a daily basis - we settled on this routine because it
is simply, easy to administer, and does not take a lot of time. For slave,
after many years of performing this routine, it has very much become a
second nature to him, and he would often say that in the rare occasions
where he does not get to do this, such as when we have to travel
separately, he would feel unsettled because he did not get to reaffirm his
devotion to me through this overt act of submission. In reality, he more
often than not performs this ritual more than once a day just because he
wants to, such as in the morning when he first wakes up and at night before
we go to bed. But we feel like a minimum of once a day is a good rule to be
enforced.

At least once per week, slave eats his meal from a dog food bowl on the
floor. On this occasion, I usually piss in another bowl for him to drink.
He is expected to lick both bowls completely clean after he finishes. Slave
loves to drink my piss and would often beg to do so more frequently, which
I usually allow.

One night per week, slave sleeps in his cage. I allow slave to share my bed
because I enjoy cuddling with his naked body when I sleep, and because as
cops, having a good night's sleep is important for both of us. However, we
do have a cage in our bedroom, and slave spends one night per week locked
in it. For this occasion, slave usually also wears a full set of shackles
and a butt plug, and sometimes a hood. Slave really enjoys his night in the
cage because he is very much into restraints, but sleeping in this way does
affect his sleep quality somewhat, so I usually do not put him in it more
than once a week, unless we are on vacation.

Those are the main protocols my slave is required to follow. They are not
fancy or overly complicated but they have served our purpose well over the
years. We have no set protocols when we are outside mostly due to our
profession, but I use other, more subtle way to remind him of his place.
For example, when we eat at restaurants, I often spit in his water for him
to drink. When we are at bars, I sometimes piss in a glass for him to
drink. Just casual reminders that he is inferior to me and my property.

I welcome questions at stevenclay86@gmail.com