Kev's Krazy Guide To Gay Sex

An informative and upbeat manual to great gay sex, written by K.L. Montgomery

© 2007 K.L. Montgomery, all rights reserved.

E-mail: bodhidragon83@gmail.com

Online At: www.krazykevwrites.21.forumer.com

Contents:

1. Introduction

2. The Male Anatomy

3. Masturbation

4. Oral Sex

5. Anal Sex

6. Fun With Toys

7. Lubricants For All

8. Pornography

9. Safety First!

10. A Man For A Man

11. Teenagers and Gay Sex

12. Having Fun By Yourself

13. Conclusion

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Chapter 1: Introduction

Many of my friends and my partner's friends have asked me why I know so much about sex. Well, in sixth grade my parents allowed me to participate in sex-ed class. Also, I've had experience. As a 23-year-old gay dude with an above average IQ and a talent for writing, I decided that I should write a manual for other gay guys around the 18-30 age range who want to know the in's and out's (pardon the pun) to gay sex, but to put my own spin on those traditional gay sex manuals that you may or may not have read. I've also thrown in some experiences of my own to further illustrate what I'm talking about.

Being gay may or may not be acceptable, it just depends on where you live. If you live in large major cities like San Francisco, Seattle, New York, Miami, Atlanta, or Vancouver, then there's a strong likelihood that there is a significant number of gay guys living there. If you live in a rural area, or a red state (especially in the so-called “Bible Belt”), your options are severely limited.

Now, many people will tell you that being gay or engaging in same-sex intimate activity is a sin, an abomination, unnatural, and all of that hellfire and brimstone propaganda shit.

Luckily, since the Stonewall Rebellion of the late 60's, some people are growing more tolerant of being around gay people, and some have even “switched teams”, so to speak.

There has also been an increasing number of teenage boys who are gay, and unfortunately for a good bit of them, they are rejected by their parents, some have even been kicked out of the house by their parents. (For more on teens and gay sex, refer to Chapter 11 of the manual.)

As I'm writing this, our country is being run by a goofy president who can't pronounce big words correctly or even phrase sentences in the correct manner who's put the country over $300 billion in debt, is a conservative who doesn't favor same-sex marriage or even civil unions for everyone here. Luckily in a couple of years, he'll be finished with his 2^nd and final term and we can move on with our lives.

If you are gay, remember not to let those conservative mouthpieces like Pat Robertson, Rush Limbaugh or Neal Boortz try to put you down. It's your life; do what you want with it. Like Fleetwood Mac used to sing back in the day: “Go your own way.”

I hope you enjoy reading this manual as much as I enjoyed writing it.

Chapter 2: The Male Anatomy

In order to be educational, I want to discuss the male anatomy, the male sex organs.

First and foremost is the penis. This is the organ that provides pleasure from sex and also serves as the part of the body where your urine and semen are discharged from. There are many parts to the penis. Outside, you have the head, or glans, a mushroom-shaped thingy that stands proudy on the top. The ridge below the head is the corona. Please don't get that confused with the beer of the same name. You'll notice the corona is on the bottom ridge of the head. The color is a couple of shades darker than the normal color of the skin. Some people, especially in foreign countries, have what's called foreskin. This is the flap of skin that covers the glans. Normally, the foreskin is clipped off after you're born. That's called a circumcision. The doctor does it right after you're born because you won't be able to remember how painful it is when you get older.

If you still have your foreskin, then that means you're “uncut”. Uncut guys have to practice good penile hygiene. While you're taking a bath or a shower, pull back the foreskin GENTLY and take a wet washcloth with mild soap and gently wipe over the head to get rid of the bacteria and funk that collects inside during the day. Not doing this could result in a

painful itch or infection. When you wash, be careful got to get any soap inside the slit where your sperm and urine come out. If that happens, prepare for a burning sensation the next time you need to pee.

On the other side of the head below the arch of the glans is an area of highly sensitive skin called the “frenulum”. The rest of the penis is called the shaft. The two round things hanging below your penis are your testicles. These are the organs that make your sperm. That's the white stuff that shoots out of your dick when you have an orgasm. (More on that shortly...)

The testicles, or “balls” are inside a bag of taut skin called the scrotum, or “sack.” Your testicles have to maintain a certain body temperature in order to produce sperm properly. When you're all hot and sweaty to balls drop and hang low in the scrotum. When you're cold, they draw up closer to the groin and the scrotum shrivels in size and becomes taut and wrinkly, like a raisin.

Now let's go back to the penis. Inside your penis are three chambers of tissue. When you become sexually excited, these chambers of tissue become engorged with blood, and the chambers and expand to accommodate the blood and they become rigid. This is what's called an erection, or a “hard-on”. When you get a hard-on, you're ready to fuck or jerk off.

As you participate in a solitary or mutual sexual activity, you will become further excited. You'll get so excited that after a while, your balls draw up to the groin, you feel this great sensation. That's cause the balls are producing sperm, or cum. As the sperm is developed, it starts traveling up some small tubes inside the scrotum, up the tubes called the vas deferens. Then the sperm travels up through the tubes and through the urethra. And then...SPLAT! All of the sperm comes shooting out of your dick. This is called an orgasm, or as many call it, coming. After you've cum, the good sensations die out, your penis goes soft and you'll feel exhausted.

There are other important parts of the anatomy, the anus. This is that taut pucker of pinkish-red skin that is found between you butt cheeks. Although this is where your bodily waste comes out, it is also where a guy puts his cock at during gay sex.

Now that you know all about the anatomy, let's start talking about putting the equipment to use, shall we?

Chapter 3: Masturbation

Green Day is a popular alternative rock group. Their first big label album was called “Dookie”. If you have the CD, skip over to the last track and then wait about 80 seconds after the song ends. There will be a hidden song about masturbation.

Masturbation, or jerking off, is of course the sexual activity you can do by yourself. All you need is your hand, your dick, and perhaps some pornography. Or just use your imagination like I do.

Masturbation is widely practiced among horny boys just entering the threshold of puberty. Over time, they develop different techniques of getting themselves off. The following are some of the most common J.O. Methods.

THE SWITCH HITTER:

You'll use both hands, switching back and forth in a pattern you develop to offer yourself the most arousal. You'll notice the difference. Don't get into a routine where the strokes are dull and boring. Do it good, and you could be on your way to a cool orgasm.

THE DOUBLE WHAMMY:

How about going double-down! Bring both well-lubricated hands down on your shaft. Some cocks are so big they require both hands. If your's doesn't, then use the other hand to caress and lightly tickle your balls, or tighten around the base of the shaft. If both hands fit along the length of the shaft, move them together, up and down, in the typical pumping motion at the same time. Pretend you're holding a baseball bat and are about to score the game-winning home run. You can also vary the directions of your hands, one up, one down at the same time. Sometimes, two hands can be better than just one.

THE ANVIL STROKE:

Bring one hand down, letting it stroke the penis all the way from top to bottom. When it hits the bottom, let go.

Meanwhile you're bringing your other hand down to the top of the shaft, creating an alternating beating motion, hence the name "anvil stroke."

THE SHUTTLE COCK:

Not many people have heard of this method, but it's one of the best ones. Take the penis in both hands, fingers lightly touching the sides of the shaft. In order to visualize the position, think of yourself holding a flute. Now flick the penis back and forth between your two hands by holding on to the loose skin of the shaft. Shuttling it back and forth in this manner may not seem incredibly exciting to you at first, but pretty soon, as you build up the momentum and pick up the pace, it'll get very exciting Orgasms encountered via this method are sometimes messy, but always memorable and something to laugh at.

THE BOOKENDS:

Place both of your hands side by side against your shaft like a pair of bookends. Now push hard against the penis. Then lift your hands up and down. Continue in this manner for a while. The constant tugging of the skin around the balls will definitely do the trick.

THE FLAME:

Place your hands down on either side, your fingers pointing away from your cock. Pretend you're a campfire boy and start spinning your pecker like a stick of wood. This way you'll keep the fire burning for a long time to come.

THE BASE CLUTCH:

Tighten your thumb and forefinger around the base of the shaft, pressing down on the balls. This will cut off the blood (acting as a makeshift cock ring) and help you steady the shaft in yourhand. If the skin on it is slick and immutable, you can stroke the penis with more friction, thereby enhancing the excruciatingly awesome

experience.

THE LOVE TUG:

As you're jerking off, lightly pull on the light strands of pubic hair sprouting from your testicles. Don't pull so hard that you remove them, but tease them gently. This will make you squeal with delight and you'll be in awe of your creativity.

Ignore this exercise if you shave your balls.

THE TWO-TIMER:

Tickle your balls with one hand while the other jerks you up and down. It's the easiest of all basic methods.

THE THIGH-SWATTER:

Use your free hand to firmly pat your inner thighs.

PUTTING YOUR BEST FIST FORWARD:

Place your fist against your perineum (the area of skin between the scrotum and the asshole) as you're stroking him.

You'll need to open your legs a little wider, so that you'll have more space to press against. Guaranteed to drive you

or your partner through the roof!

I've been masturbating regularly ever since I was 8 years old, and over the years I've created some very unique techniques that get me off. My boyfriend has even thrown one of his own techniques. If you find the methods above tiresome and average, then try one of these out:

THE RUBDOWN:

Use your index and middle fingers to rub the frenulum while using the thumb to massage the head.

HAND LOVE IN REVERSE:

Use your normal jack hand but turn it the other way and rub up and down. You'll notice the difference.

INCOGNITO J.O.:

This is perfect for when you're horny but can't find anywhere to bust a nut. Rub your package through your

pants. Grab your shaft and pump it up and down. The friction of cloth rubbing against your shaft makes for one outstanding experience. Just remember to untuck your shirt when you're done so nobody sees the wet spot you've made.

BACK-TO-BACK SMACK:

One of my BF's methods. Lubricate both hands and stroke one from the bottom of the shaft to the top, then do the other hand the same way. This is basically a reverse version of the Anvil Stroke.

HAND-FUCK:

Lube up your hand, make it into a fist, slide your cock inside and fuck into it. Don't move the hand, just thrust in and out of it. You can vary the tightness for added pleasure.

POCKET FULL OF CUM:

A variation of the Incognito J.O., except for this method you pull your dick up to your left or right front pocket in your pants or shorts, placing your hand inside the pocket of choice and you jack off by rubbing your dick through the thin cloth of the pocket. Again, the friction is great, but thankfully, the wet spot will be in the pocket area, so you may not have to untuck your shirt.

DOUBLE TROUBLE:

There are different variations for this method. You could jerk your cock off with any of the methods described above that require only one hand. Use your free hand; notably your index, middle, or both fingers well lubricated; and fuck your ass. This is a great exercise for getting prepared for anal sex. It loosens up the rectum and allows you to be fucked by a cock.

SPLIT-SECOND:

Using your well lubricated index and middle fingers, press them between your shaft and rub off. This is a variation of the Bookends technique. Press the fingers tightly to get the best benefit.

Now that you've learned all about pleasuring with your hand, let's move on to pleasuring with your mouth.

Chapter Four: Oral Sex

The first true oral sex I had was when I was 12 years old. Me and David, one of my pals from middle school, were always talking about sex whenever we visited each other. One day we were being curious, and out of the blue, he asks me if I wanted to suck his dick.

Next thing I knew, we were bare-ass naked on his bed, his dick in my mouth. I never managed to get him to cum that first time, even though he was 10 months older than me. He was a late-bloomer.

Oral sex is basically when you take your partner's penis in your mouth and suck it up and down. It can be very pleasurable for both the person giving and the person receiving.

Now unfortunately, most men do not have the slightest idea of how to suck cock. Most seem to think that

simply by making a cunt of their mouth, closing it around a man's penis, and moving their heads lustily up and down until the recipient climaxes automatically makes them expert cocksuckers. WRONG!!! Developed skill is required to suck a man's cock and provide him with the highest degree of pleasure possible. When I first started my quest with David at age 12, I really had no one to turn to for advice. If I had asked someone my age, they'd call me a faggot and beat me up. It was all hunt and suck. It's all about finding that one technique that could and would set your partner ablaze! I had to

learn from my experiences and while I would not want to rob you of the immense pleasure that these experiences will bring, It would really suck (pardon the pun) to see you lose a great companion because of your inexperience and

lack of oral craftsmanship.

Okay, let's say that you have taken that opportunity to LOOK at his penis. To explore each area of the penis to find the most sensitive parts. That you have gotten beyond the "parts is parts" mumbo-jumbo crap and recognize that some parts are more equal than others.

In order for you to observe your man's reactions and get the most information possible about his responses try the following: While his erect penis points toward the ceiling, cup his balls in one hand and gently, using only your tongue, lick softly, but carefully along the entire underside of his erect organ. As you suck along the underside you'll find out that those are the zones that give him the ultimate pleasure when your tongue is touching them. Unless he's the shy type, your partner will provide you with vivid clues as to which areas are the most pleasurable for him.

Now as you discover these areas of enhanced pleasure, start concentrating in them. For most dudes the most sensitive area will be the point where corona of the head and, if he has one, the foreskin is attached. By continuing to lick and tap along this area with your tongue you're going to bring forth a geyser, that's for damn sure!

But, if you are not skilled and you want to please him in a hurry, then let me suggest that you get him off in

this manner in order to become familiar at first with the nature and delight of his orgasm. As he is getting ready to cum, you'll discover changes in his dick. These signs will be the same every time he's getting close to shooting so

that you can prepare for his cum. The head of the cock may swell a little larger than it does during the normal course of

his hard-on. He may thrust his hips forward as he wants to send his body hurtling out his cock with his cum. And for most men, immediately prior to coming, there will appear at the tiny, lovely lips at the tip of the cock a clear drop or two of fluid. This is what's called pre-cum. When you see this or feel the opening at the slit of his dick you know that the point of no return has arrived. Look out! There he blows!!!

Many of mine and my boyfriend's gay buddies will ask me, “Hey, Kev? Where should I be when I'm sucking my guy's cock? Should I do it between his legs? Or should I do it on top of him in a 69? Huh? What? Where?!”

Well, my answer is this: because of the structure of his penis, as well as the structure of your mouth, lips, tongue, and teeth, you can provide the highest level of sensation to yourself and your partner by kneeling between his legs and approaching his cock from the bottom rather than from the side or the top. Don't believe me? Well, hey, try the various positions described below. Try 'em all and see which one works best for you and your partner.

Place his stiff cock inside your mouth but do not tighten your lips around the shaft. With your head begin a circle motion.

The cock will slide to different places inside of your mouth as you continue doing the circle motion. Watch your teeth on this one, because if you don't, there'll be hell to pay!

A kneeling position will suffice but it is also effective when your partner is laying on his back and your head is directly above his dick. The circle should be executed both clockwise and counterclockwise in motion in a slow meaningful manner. I found out that after several years, my boyfriend seems to prefer this technique above all the other ones. When I was a senior in high school , I had a “suck buddy” named Aaron who could circle a cock for hours on end and I found myself having multiple orgasms while his mouth circled my cock. I didn't lose my hard-on after each cum. When the technique is performed correctly it means many hours of uncompromisable pleasure.

With your man sitting in an upright position and you on your knees in front of him lift his hard cock to reveal his balls.

With your tongue find the underside of his balls. Now, while resting his balls on your wet tongue, lick in a slow upward motion to the very tip of his cock. You can use your hands in this technique if you want to. It is better to do this technique several times in succession, like licking a lollipop, candy cane, or an ice cream cone.

Now folks, I was born and raised in Georgia, the “Empire State of the South”. And lemme tell you something about boys from the South. We learn early how to get if off quickly when the need is urgent. And the lollipop/candy cane/ice cream cone lick is the one technique in this manual which few men can tolerate for long periods of time without blowing a load.

Now, lets talk about the method that is probably the most common cocksucking method in the world. Take his cock in

your mouth but not deeply. (I'll get to deep throating a little later. Be patient, now.) It's great, not over-rated, but if you want to be an expert at deep throating, start with the right techniques and work your way down. (Pardon the expression.)

Take his cock in your mouth by sliding your moistened tongue seductively over the head until your lips close around the shaft at the point just behind the corona. Don't just open your mouth and close it around his cock. SLIDE it in. He will enjoy it much better.

Enclose the shaft of his penis with your hand. Remember the shaft is relatively insensitive to any kind of stimulation. By

enclosing his penis with your hand you give him the sensation of having his penis enclosed.

Now you're presented with several options. Try twisting your head from side to side making sure your moist lips stay in contact with the ridge. While you're doing this gently, move your hand up and down the shaft. When he comes he may want to push your head further down the shaft of his penis. He wants to surround your mouth with his cock. As you are learning his climax you will miss the fine points if you deep throat at this time. Instead gently suck around the

corona as he climaxes so that you can intensify his pleasure and increase the force of his orgasm.

So, as you gain more experience you will be able to tell exactly when his climax is approaching and you will be ready for that initial shot out of the cannon!

There is one further variation to this basic technique which will heighten his orgasm. If you place your thumb at the

very base of the penis in such a way as to block the urethra through which the cum spurts, the semen cannot escape even though he is spasming and going through the reflex action of shooting off.

If at the same time you suck vigorously on the head of his cock you can delay his load for several moments. When you

finally allow the load to squirt, it will definitely last much longer and be just as intense as a result. Even though you'll be delaying the cum for only a few moments, you'll be surprised by the intensity of his load.

These techniques are the basics of cocksucking. Don't go any further until you have become an expert, not only in the

techniques, but also in the reading and interpreting of your partner's responses to such a point that you know exactly how he is getting off on what you are doing. When you have reached this point, you are ready for the more subtle, more advanced techniques.

Don't be so stubborn that you miss out on the fun of self discovery. Find out what works for you and for your partner and make your cocksucking as individual as your signature. After all, you want your man to pick you out in the dark among a crowd of a hundred slobbering cocksuckers.

Now, one of the first things I encountered when I first started to suck cock was a gag reflex. Most men seem to want to

force their cocks down your throat as far as they can get it. Particularly at the moment when they cum!

Now remember that the average length of your oral cavity is 3 to 3 ½ inches, while the average Caucasian cock length is five to five and a half inches. The laws of nature would seem to say that getting all that cock into your mouth is utterly impossible. But guess what? It CAN be done! So let's say that you probably know someone who can do this and that is why you're reading this manual. Yes, It is possible to master the necessary technique. I don't want to sound like a dumb-ass, but if you understand your anatomy you will begin to understand the requirements that allow you to take his nice hard cock into your mouth and all the way down your hungry cum-starved little throat.

The biggest challenge to taking all of his dick down your throat is the fact that there is a bend of almost 90° behind your tongue leading down into your throat. So the first thing you gotta do is get that fucker past that particular angle.

Get past the “angle of the dangle”, boys!!!

Now, in order to practice this, get yourself into a position where you can turn your head in such a way that your mouth and throat lie almost in a straight line. The best position to accomplish this is to lie on a bed so that your head is near the edge with your body laid out across the bed so that your head is tipped sharply back. This position will put your mouth and throat nearly in a perfect line and allows your partner to approach you in a way that the insertion of his cock can be made so deeply that his musky-smelling pubic hair presses against your pouty lips.

Now, you're ready to practice mastering the physical reaction that must be alleviated before the art of deep penetration can be enjoyed. The natural tendency of the body to gag when a foreign object such as a deeply thrusting cock being forced down your throat. Dudes, you can overcome this tendency by completely relaxing your throat at moment the insertion is made. It is very important that you maintain this relaxation during the entire deep throating experience.

Let him put his cock down your throat and hold it still while you find the most comfortable way to proceed. Because of

your position you will not be able to move or offer him any greater stimulation than simply keeping your mouth closed tightly around his throbbing-like-hell cock. If you are able try to stimulate his underbelly with your tongue, do it! Don't be shy!

You will only be able to relax and take his cock in this way if you completely thrust your partner. Your partner is in full

control. He must initiate and maintain all the motion. This is the only exercise in which you relinquish your control of the

situation to your partner. He will enjoy this for the simple fact that for the very first time he can insert his cock as deeply down your throat as he wants to. Now your partner begins an in and out movement that is just like fucking. He should start slowly, especially if this is a completely new experience for the both of you. After all if he hurts you he

cuts himself off from one of the great pleasures in life.

His only other requirement during this exercise is to keep the motion in the same direction throughout this oral exercise as there is simply no way for him to vary the motion from side to side.

One other word of caution: don't let your partner get carried away at the moment he starts to cum. At that spectacular moment he will be able for the first time to thrust his cock all the way inside your oral cavity and that is the most important lesson of this exercise! His only other requirement during the exercise is to keep the motion in the same against your lips as he cums.

Because of your position in bed you will not be faced with the problem of swallowing the sticky stuff down. The reason is because he has gotten his cock BEYOND your gag reflex!

If both you and your partner understand what it is that you are trying to do as well as the possible problems that may "cum" up (lol) along the way no harm or discomfort will happen to either of you.

Now, it is very likely that not everyone will learn the "deep throat" technique. It took me almost 11 years of practicing to master the art of deep throating. But this inability does not make you a shitty cocksucker. You must allow your throat to relax completely while your partner is thrusting his cock this deeply down your throat.

Doing this long enough for your partner to completely get it off is very hard to do and may require practice beyond one day. It may be that you will be able to take your partner completely down your throat, but you will not be able to maintain proper relaxation of your throat to until he shoots his load. Hopefully your partner will understand that this is not a rejection of him or of what he is offering you, and it is my sincere desire that you not stop here and think that you will never master the "deep throat" technique. It doesn't hurt to keep trying.

Now lets go to another portion of your partner's anatomy which should not be ignored: the balls. Here are two

objects which can enhance your partner's feelings more than any other. Many people do not think of the balls as primary sexual objects. Many men are extremely sensitive and there must be a certain amount of trust built up between the two of you before he will willingly let you have undisputed use of these two pearls of delight!

Try gently licking his balls with your tongue. As your partner becomes more trusting you may begin

to play with his nipples with your fingers gradually increasing or decreasing the intensity as you gauge how he is responding. You may want to gently caress his cock with your hand while you are bathing his balls with your tongue.

Remember that the balls are extremely sensitive to pain and he will lose his trust in you if you do not respect any limits he places on them just as you have the right to place limits on the back of your throat until you are completely ready to receive him.

It is possible once you have built up this trust to take both his balls in your mouth. He will be more receptive to this if

you thoroughly wet them with your tongue prior to taking them into your mouth. Unless your partner is into the oft-practiced method of shaving his balls he will have tiny hairs on his testicles. By giving the balls a complete tongue bath prior to taking them into your mouth, you will have pressed these hairs down along the surface of

the sac and will not inadvertently cause pain by pulling on them.

Now, let's move on to something else: ass sucking. Before you even consider doing this, PLEASE make sure that your

partner is clean. Right out of the shower. So fresh and so clean! Place your partner on his back with his legs

in the air and his knees close to his shoulders. This spreads his buttocks apart and allows you access to his asshole.

You are probably under the impression that actual penetration of the asshole itself is necessary for your partner to

receive the most complete enjoyment of this technique. Not so, mofo!! The nerve endings around the anus itself have no judgments and you will get him off just as well and as thoroughly by licking around the area as if you stick your tongue up his butt!

There will be times when time is very limited and you'll want to get him off in a flash! Southern boys learn this one first and then expand their repertoire from that point. But because I want you to become an expert at all aspects of oral sex, I

deliberately waited until now to introduce this technique. It differs from lesson four in that you are a more consummate

cocksucker now. He will love it all the more if he realizes that this is not the only trick you have down your mouth!

It's very easy to do, and if you understand your partner's basic cock anatomy you will grasp this one easily.

Place your lips around the head of your partner's cock and twirl your lips wetly and gently around the coronal ridge at the back of the head of his penis. This does not require any great cocksucking skill and it works simply because this is the area that is most sensitive on your partner's cock. All that is necessary is for you to find the most sensitive area around the coronal area. By sucking on this area of his cock continuously you will produce a quick powerful cum. It is not necessary to bob your head up and down on his cock to get him off. One other use of this technique is to get him hard again after he cums and you will soon find him rip roaring to go again.

Sixty nine is not always the perfect way to provide your partner oral satisfaction. Inadvertently one of you will "let up"

your end of the cocksucking in order to experience the subtle pleasures the other partner is giving you. For this reason I have included it as the final lesson. Many people think that the deep throat technique is the ultimate pleasure you can give your partner. Actually I believe that sixty-nine is the ultimate pleasure. Done correctly and unselfishly when both of you are completely in tune with each others innermost desires, the sixty nine is the ultimate. But because of the problem mentioned earlier , most people practice it too early and it becomes an intensely satisfying experience for one partner at the expense of the other. When you are completely on each other's wavelength you will discover that this is the most effective way of giving as well as receiving pleasure.

Here are some of the most popular variations of sucking cock.

THE BUTTERFLY FLUTTER:

The best position for this very sensuous cocksucking movement is kneeling over your partner. If he is on his back kneel

between his legs. Or kneel in front of your partner while he stands. I like this position because the cock feels thicker in

your mouth and throat and you have complete freedom to play with his balls while performing this maneuver. This technique was first introduced to me by my former suck buddy Aaron. He created the basic vacuum pressure on my cock but only enough pressure to pull my cock into his mouth ever so slightly.

With his lips firmly wrapped around my big swollen cock head and shaft he would gently flick the tip of the cock with

his tongue. With his lips open around the cock at a depth so that he could touch the tip of the cock with the tip of his tongue. With his lips around the cock shaft he would make an up and down movement with his tongue. He would flutter his tongue up and down he tip of the cock.

I recommend you try it. It will drive your Butterfly Flutter partner back into your mouth at any hour you want him there. After several minutes of this continue with the basic vacuum suck.

THE TRAVELING FIGURE EIGHT:

After you have become comfortable with the basic vacuum suck and you have become accustomed to his cock deep in your mouth and throat try this action. It is guaranteed to take his breath away. With your lips firmly wrapped around the cock shaft try very slowly to reach the base of the shaft or as close to it as you are comfortable. Your nose should be buried in or at least touching the pubic hairs at the base of the cock.

With your nose trace a figure eight as if the figure eight were lying on it's side. Your figure eight motion should be three

to four inches long. Slowly travel up the shaft of the cock to the head, doing the figure eight motion. Keep doing this motion and let your lips firmly travel up and down the cock shaft. Do this for as long as you are comfortable with it. Believe me your man is floating in orbit as his wildest dreams of the ultimate

blow job are coming true.

By this time you are becoming more and more confident with your partner. His cock feels great as it fills your mouth and

throat. The cock is becoming harder and warmer as your warm moist mouth and throat create friction by going up and down that big beautiful cock. It is time to cool his tool just a little with this technique.

Here's one method I came up with especially for my boyfriend Jason:

Go down on the cock shaft as far as you are comfortable. All the while your lips should be firmly wrapped around the shaft. Open your mouth as wide as you can and suck in as much air as your lungs will hold. While sucking in air let your open mouth travel up to the cock head. Your up stroke motion should end at the head of his cock just as your lungs fill with air. Now with your mouth still open let the air in your lungs out slowly through your mouth as your opened mouth travels back down the cock shaft. This technique cools the cock on the up stoke and warms the cock with your hot breath on the down stroke. Do this movement as long as you like then return to the basic vacuum suck method.

You are doing just fine and he loves it!

Keep it up as long as you are comfortable with it.

For his added pleasure and to give you something to play with reach up and fondle his balls. Or go up even further and

play with his nipples. This will give him something else to concentrated on so he doesn't pop his cock yet. If you feel he is about to cum stop what you are doing and let him cool off for a few minutes. After all you are having fun and you want to enjoy his cock as much as you can until you get tired of it. Then let him pop his cock! But not yet. He likes it too much and he wants it to last as long as you can keep it going.

THE CIRCLE:

Place his stiff cock inside your mouth but do not tighten your lips around the shaft. With your head begin a circle motion.

The cock will slide to different places in your mouth as you continue the circle motion. Watch your teeth on this one.

A kneeling position will suffice but it is also effective when your partner is on his back and your head is directly over

his cock. The circle should be executed in both clockwise and counterclockwise motions in a slow purposeful manner.

THE LOLLIPOP LICK:

With your man sitting in an elevated position and you on your knees in front lift his hard cock to reveal his balls. With

your tongue find the underside of his balls. Now, while resting his balls on your wet tongue, lick in an upward motion to the very tip of his cock. It is permissible to use your hands in this technique. It is better to do this technique several times in succession - like licking a lollipop, candy cane, or an ice cream cone.

Whew! Now wasn't that fun, guys? Now you're ready to move on to the next step: ASS FUCKING!!!

Chapter 5: Anal Sex

Okay, boys! Now that you've mastered the art of masturbation and the art of oral sex, it's time to move on to anal sex.

The first time I had anal sex was on my 16^th birthday with my boyfriend, Jason. Neither one of us had ever done this before, and yes we were nervous as hell. This first time was very special, but it didn't last long because for one we were teenagers and two, we were inexperienced. Back when I was 16, me and Jason weren't boyfriends yet. We were just friends. So after I had my first anal sex with Jason, I was looking to pick up some techniques.

Aaron, the suck buddy I mentioned a couple of times already, was curious about anal sex, and we decided it was high time to move on to stuff other than sucking cock. I remembered I was 17, and I had spent the whole afternoon studying for my final exams. Graduation was 3 weeks away, and I was in a nervous wreck trying to cram for the important exams that would determine if I graduated or not. At a little after 6 that evening, Aaron stopped by and finally I had an excuse to stop studying.

For most of my senior year, the two of us would get together at his or my place just fooling around. It started with mutual masturbation and moved on to cocksucking, but now our boners were aching for something better.

Aaron, at 18, was huge at 9 ½ inches, his head the size of a cherry tomato. I was only 6 inches even. We began by jerking each other off, then moved on to a little cocksucking, and then Aaron pulled out a bottle of hand lotion from his backpack and that's when we got to the heavy stuff. Aaron gave me the benefit of going first, needless to say, I lasted longer than I thought I could. After I came, Aaron lubed up his cock with the lotion and when his big head popped through my hole, I was screaming bloody murder! This was the first big cock I had in my ass. Jason was only 7 ¼ inches when we had fucked, but Aaron had a thick one, and my ass wasn't used to accommodating something of that long and thick.

Luckily for me, Aaron went slowly, and he lasted for about an hour before he pulled out his cock and shot his massive fuck wad all over my inflamed gaping hole.

After that night, I wasn't able to walk or sit properly for a whole week. Me and Aaron did it again on the night of our graduation, and this time, it didn't hurt as bad because my ass had become used to it.

Aaron left after the summer to go to college in South Carolina, and I haven't heard from or seen him since.

My first boyfriend, Brian, was a bartender. Every Friday night, he'd set up a wet bar in the kitchen and he'd mix drinks and we'd both end up drunk. He was a great ass fucker, and he was the one who taught me everything I needed to know about anal sex. When we broke up in May of 2003, he moved to Florida and I hooked up with Jason. I used him as my “guinea pig” to experiment with all of the fuck techniques I learned from Brian.

Now, first and foremost, to get ready for anal sex, you gotta loosen up your ass. Try inserting a lubed finger up your butt and move it in and out. Once you get used to the feeling, stick a second finger up there and move 'em in and out again.

Try this for 15 minutes each day for 5 days, then start using a dildo. You can buy one at an adult novelties store, order one through a mail-order catalog, or buy one on the Internet. Pick up a bottle of lube and reserve at least 30 minutes of free time to experiment with the dildo.

You may find it necessary to set a good mood for this. Try buying some scented candles or incense. Put on soft music if you have to; just set a good mood for your experiment.

When it's time to play, lube up the dildo with a generous amount of lube. Put a drop or two on your asshole and rub it in. Stick one or two fingers inside and move 'em in and out like you've done before. After about 7 minutes, take your dildo and start rubbing it against the crack of your ass. Then, slowly stick the head inside. Once you've gotten used to that sensation, try pushing some more in. Don't push it all in at once, just do it slowly in short increments.

Once you have it all in there, just lay there and relax. Try squeezing your sphincter muscles around it. You may want to lube up your cock and begin jacking off. As one hand works on your aching cock, use your other hand to gently move the dildo in and out. Don't pull it all the way out, just pull it until just the head is inside, then push it back in. You may feel the head of your dildo press against your prostate. That'll definitely make your cock jump with excitement.

Start jacking off faster and fucking yourself with the dildo faster. You'll start to feel that exquisite sensation of your balls churning, and your cock becomes fully engorged. Keep going until you start shooting off. When you cum, you'll notice that your sphincter muscles will cling and clench the dildo for each spasm you have when you're coming. You may even have a stronger orgasm doing this. If so, good for you!

After doing this a few times over the span of a week, you can begin looking for a fuck buddy. You'll notice that when he fucks you, you'll be able to take it all. Now remember, when you're buying a dildo to do this exercise with, don't go out and buy one of those foot-long monsters that some of those “stunt artists” can take in. Start small. Buy a dildo that is somewhere between 5 ½ to 7 inches long.

Now that you've mastered the preparatory exercise, find a partner and get busy! Over time, you'll want your partner to experiment with different positions. Here now are all of the most common positions.

In these next paragraphs, I'll be using the terms “top” and “bottom”. The top is the guy who does the fucking, and the bottom is the guy who receives the fucking.

One position I've already mentioned, with the bottom on all-fours to receive his friend from behind. The advantages are, easy and fairly deep entry, and freedom to move. This of the top include thrusting, grinding (rotating the hips circularly as you'd do to play with a hula-hoop), rocking (turning the pelvis from left to right), and body motions like swaying from the knees. These motions allow differing experiences for both partners. Those of the bottom include complementary thrusting (the same as for the top, except that your timing and his are slightlyoff), counter-thrusting (where you push as he pulls), grinding or rocking as he thrusts, and body movements. All these motions are easy to learn, once you feel save enough to try them and someone can help you a little.

The disadvantages of this position are both people having to hold themselves up (getting tired and not having free hands), the penis not pressing too much against the prostate, and not being face to face (if that's important to you).

A variation on this position had the bottom lying flat on his stomach (with his hips raised a little on a pillow if you like). This allows him to relax more and he has his hands free to do whatever. The top lies on top and thus also can be more relaxed and have free hands. However, penetration is not as easy and you can't thrust as deeply. Also, the bottom is weighed down and restricted in how he can move, through the top can still more freely. From this position, both partners can roll over on their sides, still facing the same way, with one leg drawn up.

This position allows bodily relaxation plus free hands to explore and caress. Also entry is easy and fairly deep, and avoids the one person pressing fully on his friend. Movements are somewhat limited, though vigorous thrusting is till easy once you get used to the posture.

An interesting variation on this position has both partners on their sides, but facing each other. Here the top must

extend his pelvis between the other's bent legs. This position allows deeper entry and a full massage of the prostate. Also the hands and mouths are free, and movement is fairly easy once insertion is made.

Then there is the full-front position, in which the bottom lies on his back, drawing his knees up to his chest and over the

shoulders of the top, who presses down on him face to face (a pillow can be put under the pelvis to raise it even higher, or the top can push back his friend's feet over his head). This position allows for easy penetration and very deep entry, a

good massage of the prostate, plus full movements by the top. However, the bottom can't move much, though his hands are free.

Another favorite position is a standing one, in which both friends stand up, facing the same way, and the bottom bends over at the waist, using a wall table, or other support. This can also be done on the knees rather than the feet, say, at the edge of the bed. If both partners are not of the same height at the waist, some adjustment will have to be made. This position is convenient to use outdoors, and allows easy penetration and full movements, if something solid is around to hold on to.

These are the basic positions; many others are also possible. Each is different, and may vary for you in feelings and emotional meaning. You might be especially thrilled by thrusting from behind, wrapping around this backside, stroking his chest and stomach with your hand. Or your love to unite may reach out strongest with him entering you face to face, snug and kissing deeply. That's Jason's favorite position, because he loves to kiss me and he's one helluva kisser.

As with the bottom, so too with the top, being of good consciousness, open, wanting to explore and cooperate - with these, knowledge and pleasurable sensations; touching and rubbing in joyful ways. Once your penis is in his rectum, all this will tend to happen by itself; just let yourself go and explore what feels good.

If you haven't done it before, you might feel clumsy, confused; body motions used in anal intercourse aren't used many places outside sex, so how can you be expected to know them instantly? If you feel uncomfortable, tell him you're exploring maybe he can help you out.

One big worry is that you might be embarrassed, that you'll fail. This is called "performance anxiety:" you can't get it up, you can't keep it up, and/or you can't carry through to climax. The penis is sensitive to worry, like a barometer it goes up and sown with anxiety level (among other things, such as fatigue). In other words, if you're too upset or too unsteady, it's pretty hard to fake it with your cock. And once you've "failed," it makes it even more difficult.

But actually, this penis-sensitivity can be seen as a good thing: it makes you be honest. There's a big difference between performing in intercourse and sharing. I'm not writing about performance at all - if you want to put on a show, entertain your partner and prove your skills, go ahead and do it. Just know that I'm not interested in it. If you want to be together, mixing with him, giving and taking as two growing people - then you'll want to be honest, clear, human, yourself. That's the reason why me and Jason have been boyfriends for so long.

Of course, if you go limp, you go limp. So what? Big deal! That's just part of being yourself at the time. You're scared, uncertain, confused; these are important feelings; don't deny them! People manage to get themselves into a fix by making things worse then they are. Worries in sex are common, human things; we all fail, including me, your humble tour guide. By discovering you can just be you, wherever you're at during the moment, it won't matter so much; it'll be OK.

If you've tried before and failed a lot, you probably feel pretty bad about it. "I'm a loser; ain't it awful." Well, I can tell you now; you'll never get over it with that attitude. What keeps people from doing what they want is "I can't do it; I'm super anxious that I'll just fail again." This vicious circle failure, fear of failure - needs to be broken, and the first step is removing the emotional punch of "failing." Try and examine why you see your act as a failure; you must have

had a goal in mind that you didn't reach, and this to you was bad. Why is this such a bad thing? Try looking at it from a different perspective, seeing it neither bad or good, but simply as an event which happened.

Jeezuz, I'm starting to sound like Dr. Phil. But just remember what I said, okay?

Anyways, go out and find a friend who's willing to work on it with you, explaining that you want to do this, but couldn't manage it in the past. Then you can go on to break the cycle, by learning that you can enjoy yourself. This needs trust and help from your friend, as you learn together. First, you'll want to discover you can enjoy contact with his rear end. when you're having sex, try inserting your finger on or in his anus, and he into yours, especially at climax. Thus you'll discover you can give and get extra pleasure this way. After you're used to this, try the special position I mentioned before: you lie on your back, and your friend straddles you at the waist, to insert your penis in him. You don't have to move a thing; just relax and feel it. Often the person was so worried about what to do after insertion that he could never get that far.

Let your friend do all the movement. If you go limp, try again or switch to something else. Make sure it's OK with you and your friend if you go limp, since this (limp=failed=bad) can be the biggest part of feeling like you're no good. Take time discovering that you can be erect and be inside him. If it doesn't happen sooner or later, you may want to just let it rest until a better time.

After you feel comfortable being inside him. try moving. As you begin to do this, open up to your desire. Try the side-ways position, both facing the same way, since it won't be as demanding as some others. Once you feel fluid and relaxed mentally, your body will flow also. Flex it; try out your pelvis. Just move it around any old way and see what happens. You'll probably discover most if not all the possible movements. Thrusting is with the small of the back (just above your ass), making your pelvis tip up and down. You'll be rusty at first; practice makes better (dancing is also a

good place to practice).

You'll find you can move in ways that express your feelings: slow, fast, hard, soft, simple, complex, as you like. Also it'll take time to coordinate your movements with him; this cooperation is learned, as you pick up each other's styles and talk about what's good for you. If both of you are into moving at the same time, perhaps the easiest is for you to thrust while he rotates his pelvis. To do this try to draw an imaginary circle around your waist with your rear end. And then there's thrusting together - there are two ways to do it. As you push your penis deeper into his ass, he can push against you and then pull away from you as you pull away from him. This is the meeting style. In the rhythm style,

you both thrust at the same time; you make the exact same rhythm. Obviously this would never work, except that you and he don't move at exactly the same time: one of you is "off" slightly, pushing down a little after he pushes down, pulling up a little after, and so on.

There's another important matter that's good to know. And this is about forcing your friend's ass. There are two ways to have anal intercourse as in interaction, or as a game of force and selfish controlling between suspicious partners. Time and again, it is the good consciousness that matters; feeling warm, trusting, open with your friend. With this attitude, the problem of forced entry will never come up. But it often happens that a tight anus is rammed by a callous or overeager partner, and this is not good. As I've taken my sweet time to explain to you, the anus muscles will be as loose as the person feels. If the anus doesn't relax, intercourse can still happen, as the ass can be entered by sheer force. This is usually painful, and may hurt the bottom by tearing the rectum. You will instantly know if you're being entered in a bad way, because it'll hurt a lot. And that's the time to stop things.

Be gentle when you enter another person: after you're in, you can use healthy stroking, but not at first; don't plunge in like a high diver. You should slide in with a firm, easy pushing, If not, try again later. the anus may not be either totally relaxed or tight: it doesn't have to be gaping wide open - but if firm pressure doesn't work, don't go on. The best indicator of trouble is pain - a little is usually OK, especially of the bottom is inexperienced, but a lot means stop. If the penis is really large, some extra stretching may be necessary, and this may take a little practice for the anus to get used to. You can insert your penis in just part way, and then withdraw, so that his anus will become adjusted to accept this mount. The anus is very flexible, but it may take some practice - try inserting a little, then full insertion later, followed by gentle movements and then finally moving as comfortable. This gradual approach, in many matters, is usually the safest and most secure way.

From all the stuff I've just mentioned to you, it seems as though anal sex is a very complex activity. But actually it's a simple thing, and comes easy with an easy mind. It's another way of sharing bodies and feelings, meeting and exploring the world of ourselves. It can be a way of pleasuring, growing, loving, a nice pastime or a heavy pursuit.

Whew! Did you read all of that carefully? Good. Now let's talk about postillioning and fist fucking. You may want to read this section carefully, too.

Postillioning is a polite term meaning the insertion of a finger or fingers into the anus, and may include massaging it, the rectum, and/or the prostate gland inside. At its extreme, this can become fist fucking, which is insertion of the whole hand. I've already mentioned postillioning as a pleasant addition to the sex act, and also as a good

preparation for anal intercourse. Here I'd like to explain in more detail how you can do it, and things to watch out for.

The index or middle finger is best used, being long and strong. The finger must be well lubricated with spit or oil or Vaseline (don't use any thing with soap, as this will upset the rectal system), and then placed at the anal opening. The taut pucker of flesh on the outside can be caressed in circles and mild probes. This is usually a very warm experience and helps relax the ass.

Make insertion by pressing gently and firmly inwards, wobbling the tip a little as necessary. On the one hand, your finger won't go in at all if the ass is tight as it can be. On the other, if the anus is completely relaxed the finger will slide in with hardly any effort. Postillioning is a great way to help someone explore their rear and learn to loosen the anus-opening. Insertion is helped of the ass-person pushes lightly out as of going to the bathroom. You probably won't find anything inside the rectum, and whatever you do find will be harmless. If you must have him absolutely clean inside he can douche with an enema bottle and warm water.

Once inside, you'll feel the thick, strong, muscular ring which is the anus, and beyond it the soft sides of the rectum. Keep at least your fingertip beyond the anus, or contraction of the muscle will cause the finger to pop out again. Once your finger is inside, you can explore around, pushing it in as far as it'll go, curling it around the anus, flicking it back and forth, finding the prostate gland, This gland makes the fluid for ejaculation, and can be found behind the testicles; if you stroke it during masturbation or oral sex, it feels great (if it hurts a lot instead, it's probably infected; if it doesn't feel like much of anything, you're probably nervous).

If you insert two fingers you can push them apart inside as a way to stretch and loosen the anus. Just having the finger(s) positioned inside while sucking or jacking-off is quite delightful, while sliding them up and down at ejaculation can double or quadruple the intensity. When it's time to finish, just pull the finger out gradually, pushing down towards the legs with the finger(s) while drawing the hand up towards the head.

Being positioned is another way to open yourself up to new experiences. You may be nervous at first, from the newness of it; it may not seem pleasurable at all. Since your anus/rectum is used to nothing but excrement inside, a finger may cause you to feel like going to the bathroom. This is to be expected at first, and will disappear as you relax and get used to it. It's also easier if you're sexually excited. Keep in mind that the finger can't harm you unless it has a sharp nail or pokes violently.

Now, in fist fucking the whole hand (and even the forearm) goes up the rectum. Some people seem to like this: they say it produces very erotic sensations of their internal organs. Although fist fucking can be very painful, it's not necessarily an S&M (sado-masochistic) action; any two people can get into it who want to. Jason stuck his fist up my ass during one extremely hot fucking we had last summer. I didn't think I'd be able to accommodate his fist in my ass, but I did. You can do fist fucking because the anus and the rectum are so remarkably flexible. You start by bunching the fingertips together and inserting them,lubricated, in the anus. Then you slowly work the fingers up and in, as the anal sphincter relaxes.

Finally, if the anus relaxes enough, you'll be able to fit the whole hand (with the fingertips still pressed together). Once in, you can clench the fist and slide your arm in too. Of course, before you can be fist fucked, you must really want it and be able to relax your anus.

PLEASE READ THIS PARAGRAPH CAREFULLY!!! Fist fucking can be very harmful if it bruises the prostate gland, causing infection, or irritates anal sores you already have, or pierces the rectum itself. If the rectum is broken, it's easy to get peritonitis, an infection inside the stomach cavity, which can be fatal without quick medical treatment. So, if you want to do fist fucking, PLEASE TAKE CAREFUL CAUTION when doing it.

Another variation of anal sex that doesn't require the use of a partner's dick is rimming. This is something that me and Jason both love to do to each other during foreplay. Rimming (also called "analingus") is licking, tonguing, and sucking the anus. This might seem like a strange and very gross thing to do, because asses are supposed to be dirty and

bad. Actually, they're not. Although it's possible to catch an STD or hepatitis from an infected person, fears of rimming are mainly aesthetic, that is, related to small, taste, and personal preference. As with postillioning and anal intercourse, you can always douche beforehand, eliminating any odors and being of utmost cleanliness.

It's because the anus-opening is so delicately sensitive, and the lips and tongue so warmly expressive, that rimming is enjoyed by many people. It's also an easy thing to do, in any position where the buttocks can be drawn far enough apart to admit the tongue. Analingus is nice as part of Around the World, kissing and tonguing the body all over. You can lick across the anus in soft, wet strokes, or encircle it, going round and around languorously.

You can flick the tongue-tip rapidly, or insert it inside as far as it'll go, pushing and stroking back and forth. You can brush the lips gently over the spot, or such hard on the anus, as of trying to draw it out. This is specially nice of combined with tongueinsertion. If, while you're being rimmed, you push down and relax the anus as if shitting, it will expand a little outwards, giving more area to caress and even nibble at.

It's also nice to combine rimming with tonguing and sucking his balls, In fact, the whole are between the legs, since

it's so protected, is soft and sensitive to touching and warmth.

Now that we've talked about anal sex and all of the thrills associated with it, let's focus on using toys.

Chapter 6: Fun With Toys

Using toys can add some spice to your sex life. There are plenty of websites that offer toys and other products to enhance sex or solo activity. Try visiting www.adammale.com, they have an excellent selection of toys, lubes, condoms, and DVDs at low or discounted prices. When you're there, browse around. If you don't have much time, or prefer to do shopping by mail, request a catalog. They'll be happy to send you one free of charge.

Me and Jason have a small foot locker full of different sex toys. Dildos are of course the phalluses made of plastic, rubber, or glass. Cock rings are good with maintaining an erection. Some of the new cock rings have small vibrators in them to heighten pleasure. There are also masturbation devices, or as me and Jason like to call 'em, jerk-off sleeves. Some can be washed and used again after use, some are pre-lubricated sleeves made for one-time use. Use it and throw it away. Then there's penis pumps, which can be used to temporarily add extra length and girth to your penis by using super-tight suction. There's tons of other great sex toys out there, so why not go to the website I mentioned and check it out, or visit your nearby adult novelties store.

Chapter 7: Lubricants For All

Lubricants come in very handy for everything sexual: from jerking off, to anal sex, and even oral sex.

Here now is a list of some of the most widely used lubricants. You can find these at your nearby drug store, next to where they sell the condoms.

Astroglide

WET

Glide

X-Man

Eros Bodyglide

KY Jelly or Liquid

Lifestyles Lubricants

Normally, these types of water based lubricants vary in price. Small bottles or tubes usually cost under $5. Larger tubes/bottles cost anywhere from $8 and up. The new long-lasting silicone based lubes are more expensive. But one drop is all that you need, and like I said, they last forever. A small bottle of silicone based lube could cost anywhere from $10-$20, depending on brand and formula.

Of course, if you want to save money, you can always use body lotion, Vaseline, baby oil, vegetable oil, lard, butter, anything that can stay slick. Of course, you can always use spit. And spit doesn't cost anything!!!

Chapter 8: Pornography

I was born during the first term of the Reagan administration, and many porn lovers during the years 1981-1989 were the targets of investigations by vice squads, the religious right, and others. Mr. Reagan tried to ban pornography altogether. But fortunately for us, he failed. In the first weeks of his 2^nd term as commander-in-chief, George W. Bush announced a “war on pornography”. That idea never got off the ground, so pornography is here to stay for now.

Many people find that watching pornography can really sizzle up their sex life, and it is a perfect platform for jerking off.

There are tons of websites on the Internet devoted to pornography; gay, straight, bi, and everything in between.

Pornography is a multi-billion dollar-per-year industry. The industry holds a special ceremony every year to hand out awards to the industry's best performers, producers, directors, and videos. It's like the porn version of the Academy Awards.

Me and Jason use pornography to spice up our sex life on many occasions. Whenever Jason is away on a business trip, I dig out my stash of magazines and videos and have a good time by myself. Sometimes, Jason calls me from whatever hotel he's staying at and he talks dirty to me. That's a big turn on for me as well.

Try this on a certain day when you have the time. Go to www.google.com, and enter the words “Gay Porn Websites” in the search field. Click the Search button and trust me, you'll be amazed by how many matches turn up.

You can also go online to purchase adult videos and magazines.

The first time I discovered pornography was when I was 10 years old. My old man had a stash of magazines on the top shelf of the closet in the hall across from the bathroom and next door to my room. One night, while my mom and dad were out, I went in the closet and grabbed a couple of magazines and went in my room, shut and locked the door behind me. I was shaking with excitement as I flipped through the pages of the magazines. My dad liked “Hustler”. I didn't care about the girls with the bleach-blonde hair and the big fake tits. I was all about the dick. And that's when I started jerking off. I imagined myself as the person getting fucked by the muscular guys with their big thick dicks. That night, I shot my first ever load of cum. It wasn't much, just one brief spurt of light watery stuff over my belly.

I kept those two magazines hidden under my bed for several months. One day while I was at school, my mom and dad bought me a bunk bed, and they had to get the old bed out. They discovered my hidden stash. When I got home, I was given a good scolding from my mom. I was afraid of when my dad would come home from work, he'd give me a good spanking. But, much to my surprise, he didn't scold me or spank me. Instead, he took me out to Pizza Hut. And that was the first time my dad and I truly bonded. Oh, by the way, he gave me his entire stash of magazines when I turned 13, saying that I was mature enough to look at it. How do ya like that? Even though my parents are divorced now, I still think of how cool it was to inherit my dad's porn stash when I turned 13, and also when he bought me a brand-new VCR and 8 adult porn tapes when I turned 15.

So yes, porn has played a significant role in my sexual development.

Chapter 9: Safety First

I want you to read this section carefully, because it is the most important one in the whole manual, and following the advice below could save your life.

Me and Jason are in a non-monogamous relationship, meaning we don't sleep around with any one else. We don't use condoms because we don't sleep with others, and also because we have tested negative for any STDs including HIV and AIDS. However, if you are single and you hook up with guys for casual sex, always bring a condom with you.

If the “trick” you're about to engage in sex with doesn't want to use a condom, tell him “Either the condom goes on or I'm going home.” If he refuses, leave his sorry ass! Never, I repeat NEVER have sex with an anonymous guy without a condom, even though he may tell you he's clean. Most of time, those guys are lying their asses off.

Back before the early 80's, most gay men never wore condoms while fucking. They shrugged it off as a “curiosity”, a “sex toy.” Back then, it was considered rude and disrespectful to pull out before you came. All of that changed in 1982 when the AIDS epidemic broke out. It was very sad to see many men die of this tragic illness just because they wouldn't use a condom when they fucked. An aggressive campaign was set up by the gay community to urge men to use condoms when fucking. These days, many gay men do use condoms when having sex, even those who are in a committed non-monogamous relationship.

Condoms are relatively inexpensive, and come in different varieties, from standard “dry” (non-lubricated), to lubricated kinds. There are condoms for guys with big dicks, and there are ones that coming in different colors. Some have exotic scents like banana, cherry, or mint; and there are even flavored ones, too. There are some that have ribs, studs, ridges. Some with receptacle tips to catch the sperm during orgasm, and some that even glow in the dark! There are also specially-made condoms which are lubricated with a spermicidal lotion, most commonly Nononoxyl-9. Be careful using these, as it may cause irritation and/or a sharp burning sensation when you have to pee.

Just remember: SAFETY FIRST!

Chapter 10: A Man For A Man

Let's say you've come to the realization that you're gay. Your dilemma: you have no partner. So what do you do? Go out and find someone! With today's technological advances, it's easier than ever to find someone. Whether it be through gay date lines, gay websites, or just going to a nearby gay bar or nightclub.

Here are some stories on how my friends hooked up with their partners:

Enrique, 22, self-proclaimed “Rave Boi King”:

“I met my boyfriend Sebastian at a rave in 2004. He was hanging out at the bar trying to flirt with the bartender, when I came up to him and asked him if he wanted to dance with me for a while. We spent all night moving and grooving, and by the time the night is over, he's at my place and we're engaging in some super-sweet 69 action. Ever since then, we've been inseparable.”

Max, 31, formerly a U.S. Marine, now a sports nutritionist:

“A couple of years ago, while I was home on leave from Iraq, I fell in love with this bodybuilder at the local gym. He was fuckin' built! I casually walked up to him at the weights and introduced myself. We struck up a great conversation, and then we went to a bar and had a few beers while discussing our love lives. He was gay but struggling to find someone, and I told him I was gay but in the closet because I was in the Marines. We went by his place and we lifted weights. We got all sweaty in the heat, so we took off our shirts. We looked at each other's muscled-up half naked bodies, and that's when I lost it. I started kissing him, attacking his mouth, and by midnight, we were fucking each other's brains on the weight bench. Eventually, my superiors discovered my secret and I was forced to retire. Now, I work with him at a gym his friend runs, and we've recently committed our relationship.”

J.T., 21, adult bookstore employee:

“I met my boyfriend at the adult bookstore where I work. He asked me where he could find his favorite porn magazine 'Playguy' at, and I directed him to the magazine racks. When he came back to pay for his magazine, a box of condoms, and a bottle of Eros Bodyglide, he gave me his phone number and told me to call him after I got off work. After my shift ended, I dialed him up on my cell phone, and we met at a QuikTrip. We got a fountain drink and talked about random shit, and we really hit it off. We went back to his place and we chatted some more, and he ended up giving me a blowjob. Goddamn, he was good! He asked me out on a date to see a movie on Friday, and ever since that date, we've been BF's.”

Kyle, 19, student:

“I was on the Internet doing research for a project I was working on, and I was bored and horny. I logged on to a chat room for young gay guys 18-25, and I instantly struck up a conversation with this 20-year-old dude. He had a web cam so he turned it on and he jerked off for me. I had a web cam too, so I jerked off for him. He e-mailed me the next night telling me how hot I looked and how he wanted to meet me in the flesh. So I agreed and we met at a Starbucks. Sparks flew almost immediately. We've been boyfriends since then, and now we use our web cams to put on live sex shows for anyone who wants to watch.”

Those are some very interesting stories, guys. Thanx. Now, if you wanted to meet someone, here are some important rules to follow:

1. Don't lie about your age. Most people like to decrease their age so that they may get more hits from people.

2. Don't lie about your cock size. If you and the potential partner were to meet, and he saw that your cock was smaller than you said it was, it would be very embarrassing for you, and you probably won't get any action.

3. Always wear a condom if you're gonna be intimate with someone you meet, regardless of the fact that they may be clean. Some guys claim they have no STDs, but most are liars. If the partner is fucking you, tell him to wear a condom or get the fuck out.

4. Before you and your potential partner meet in person, have a decent conversation with him. Feel free to ask him about stuff, what's his favorite movie or TV show, what kind of music he likes listening to. Who knows, you and him might find a lot of things in common.

5. When meeting for sex, don't meet at a public place such as a park. Cops may patrol “cruisy” areas at night looking for someone to arrest. Just remember what happened to George Michael at that park so many years ago...

6. Don't be surprised when some potential partners shrug you off while trying to hook up. Some guys like a certain type of man. Just deal with the rejections with a smile, and move on until you find that special someone.

7. Be careful of underage kids posing as grown-ups. Some gay teens pretend to be legal-age adults in order to have a better chance to get some action. You can get into some serious trouble with these posers.

8. When meeting for the first time, it is suggested to meet in a public place like a café or a restaurant. That way, if the guy is shady, or is actually a gay-basher, and he was to attack you, there would be plenty of witnesses. If the guy turns out to be legit, and y'all want to have sex, go to either his or your place to do it.

Now, as far as places where you can meet other single gay guys, here are my top choices. Go to a dating website such as www.gay.com or www.interactivemale.com . They're the best known places where you can hook up with gay guys. Interactive Male also has a nationwide list of hotline numbers where you can call and leave messages and connect with guys through the phone. Check their website to find a hotline number in your area. Remember, you must be 18 or older to visit these websites or to call. If you're a teenager, read on to the next chapter; I have some very important stuff for you guys.

Chapter 11: Teenagers And Gay Sex

As I mentioned in the first chapter of the manual, there has been an increase of the number of teenage boys who are gay. If you're a teenager, and your gay, then PLEASE READ THIS CHAPTER!!!

I came to realize I was gay when I was 15 years old, even though I had been fooling around with boys for a few years. I remembered how frustrating it was to be a gay teen, afraid to come out to anyone or talk about my problems with people. I'm sure that you, especially if you've just came to realize you're gay, may be feeling the same as I did when I was a teen.

I've read some very sad stories about how gay teenage boys had come out to their parents, only to be shunned by them, or even worse, kicked out of the house for being gay. If you are having a rough time dealing with this, perhaps talking to your guidance counselor at school may help some. Eventually, you'll have to come out to your folks; either that or they'll find out your secret first.

If you do come out to your parents, they will be asking you some very serious questions, such as “Are you aware of all of the STDs you can catch” and “Why didn't you tell us this sooner”. They must realize that your decision to come out was an extremely tough one to make, and to ask them for their support. If necessary, seeing a psychologist with your parents in order to further discuss things would be a great start. Learn the warning signs of child predators when you go online. Try using chat rooms to meet teenagers your age that are openly gay or in the closet. If your school has a gay/straight alliance or similar afterschool club, don't hesitate to join. Ask your parents to go to www.insightoutbooks.com where they can order books on this subject and great books for you to read, such as “Geography Club”, “Rainbow High”, “Clay's Way”, “Boy Meets Boy”, or other books that deal with gay teenagers. Finally, have more open discussions with your parents about how you feel. After all, they are your parents, and they're supposed to be there for you.

Some gay teens don't come out and they become heavily depressed and may try to commit suicide because they're afraid of possible rejection from their parents, or if they've already been rejected by their parents. This is a sad, yet common situation in some homes.

The big challenge in school is sticking close with your group of friends, such as the people you met at your school's gay/straight alliance, or someone you've

been friends with for a while. When you come out, you're most likely to lose a few friends, but you'll be able to gain new ones. If someone, such as a bully, begans to pick on you and call you a “queer”, “sissy”, or “faggot”, it's best to ignore them. If it gets very serious, talk to your teacher or school counselor; they may be able to put a stop to the namecalling and torture. If some bully was to try to beat you up, try to get away from him. If you can, run and find the next adult you meet, and report the incident to him or her right away!!!

If you've already done these things, and you've found a boy you like who is also gay, or maybe curious, don't be afraid to chat with him. You could meet at his or your place. You may engage in some kissing, groping, or perhaps mutual masturbation. If you guys are ready to go to the next level, feel free to try out one of the many sexual acts described in Chapters 3-5 and 12.

Remember, SAFETY FIRST! Wear a condom, and have fun!

Finally, if you have a burning crush for someone who is straight, it's best not to act out on the impulses, unless you want to be beaten up. There may be some straight teens who may want to hook up for mutual masturbation or perhaps oral sex, but that's about it. If you want my opinion, then my suggestion to you is not to act out on your fantasies about the straight boy. When you get home from school, go to your room, close the door and lock it, and try jerking off while fantasizing about the boy. That's your best, and safest, bet.

Chapter 12: Having Fun By Yourself

If you're single and tired of jerking off, here's something you can try to do if you're up to the challenge: SUCK YOUR OWN DICK! If you're the kind of guy who's really flexible, this is a perfect idea! Even if you're not flexible and in absolutely perfect shape, you can still try to do it. If you're interested in learning how to suck your own dick, then read this helpful bit of information from my buddy Brent, who's perfected the self-suck technique.

“A big dick and an limber body doesn't belong to everyboy, but if you can

already get pretty close then there's some tricks you can do to improve and

hopefully, get that incredible rush that comes when you finally make contact

between your tongue and your own dick.

“I first sucked my 8 ½ inch dick at age fifteen and I think an early start

helps... but I laid off for a good ten years and when I started again, it

took work to get back in contact. Been doing it again for about two years,

but lately have come to the belief that practice DEFINITELY pays off.

Before, I could only lick the tip with real strain, legs thrown over my

head. Now I am getting the whole juicy head in my mouth plus some shaft,

and I can lick halfway down my dick and taste my balls. I can also now suck

it standing up and sitting down.

Some tips:

1. Don't even bother trying in the morning. Most people are too stiff when

- they wake up. At end of day, your body's a lot looser.

2. A full stomach holds you back.

3. Stretching is a huge help. Here's a few starters.

3a. Legs together in front of you, seated on the floor. Lean forward, stretching your upper torso lengthwise across legs. Reach hands past feet to

- lengthen your back. Go back and forth between this position and the same stretch with the soles of your feet together and your knees pointed out, -- rounding your back more than with straight leg version (tuck your head under. Do it naked! Look at that dick!)

3b. Sit upright on floor with one heel at crotch and the other leg extended straight out as far to the side as you can bring it. Slowly bring your chest down - over the extended leg. Take your time, this is a good one for loosening both your back and your hips.

3c. Lie on your stomach, hands at shoulders. Push up so your back arches backward. Hold, crane your neck upward, lengthen your spine.

3d. Loosen up your neck. It helps ease the stretch.

3e. There are many more stretches, and taking a few yoga classes, you'll probably choose a few that really help.

4. Try different techniques. Head-over-heels is usually a good warmup. Try standing up and grabbing your thighs from behind. Pull outward with

your back so your spine loosens and gets used to being rounded. Always focus on your dick. Move this grip up and down your thighs to the position

that feels closest to your dickhead and remember (always) to TILT YOUR HIPS toward your face so that dick head gets closer. Don't expect to reach it

the first time... or the tenth. But try this, then go back to head over heels and see if you're closer.

5. Use a mirror! Visualizing is half the battle. And if you prop a mirror on the back of your thighs while you're head-over-heels, seeing how close

your hardon is to your mouth will help you get a lot closer -- the effect is wild. Don't get too crazy. Pop your load (it's hot seeing that, too)

before you break your back.

6. Propping feet on the wall or something is good for head-over-heels, because it helps you to arch your back where it may not be used to

arching. Push on the wall and you can bring your hips down closer to your face.

“These are just a few tips. Don't be in a rush. Spend an hour stretching three nights a week for a week or two before you even give it a try. Obviously, a lot of exploring helps. Ya gotta remember to use that idle time to your advantage! And believe me, it's fucking worth it!”

Chapter 13: Conclusion

Well, that brings our tour of the in's and out's of gay sex to an end. I hope that by reading this, you'll have gained extra knowledge on gay sex, and that you'll have a massive repetoire of skills to use on your partner and yourself.

My thanx go out to my buddies Enrique, Max, J.T., Kyle, and Brent for adding their two cents to this manual. I thank my boyfriend Jason, and all of the other guys I've had fun fucking around with since childhood for showing me the ropes, and of course you, the reader.

Now if you'll excuse me, I'm gonna go try and see if I can suck my own dick like Brent does.

“Th-th-th-th-th-that's all, folks!”

THE END. © 2007 K.L. Montgomery. E-mail: bodhidragon83@gmail.com Online At: www.krazykevwrites.21.forumer.com