Date: Sat, 22 Dec 2007 10:37:02 -0500 From: xodoug Subject: Practicing to Take it I have heard a lot of guys say they cannot take a cock up the ass. They believe that they cannot enjoy being a bottom. I respect their self-assessment, that is where they are now. But everyone can change... We all need to look at the learning the mechanics of man to man sex like we look at tennis. They are both physical activities. To learn tennis, we always have an older man instruct a younger one. There is so much focus on the basics, where to stand, getting ready for a shot, and then powering through. One needs that odd combination of being relaxed yet strong, keeping the eyes on the ball. Then there is all the practice time, all by yourself, you and the backboard, working on everything at once, working on forgetting everything, pounding the ball against the wall over and over. All this practice is required so that when you do get in a game with a good player, you can compete, be his equal. If you get lucky, you can win. If you lose, hopefully you can enjoy some of the shots you made. And you will want to play the game again against him, see if you can get the upper hand. We all practice getting hard. It happens to me when I visit this site, and know that I am going to read explicit things about homosexual sex. There can be no denying how hard I get thinking about other hard men. I like it when they write me, because I know I must have gotten their cocks twitching, as mine is now or whenever I get a note. Even if not totally hard, my balls are buzzing, and I reach between my legs and touch myself. I love all the different phase of cock stiffness, from the awakening to the first droplets of precum. If a story is really hot, I know why these guys are so passionate for their man-sex, I'll start to jerk off. Many times that jerking off leads to that point where I am going to go, and then I focus on erupting, lots of breathing, tense and relaxed at the same time. When I shoot, I tried to keep the shots going, working the last few spasms. I eat all the seeds. This is practicing the mental game of enjoying sex with another man. There are plenty of guys who think they cannot take it. This doesn't make sense to me from a physical point of view. One cannot look at another guys butt and tell which one can take it and which one cannot. Both look the same. It may have to do with becoming familiar with your own asshole. See, we are suppose to completely avoid that area. If we take the cultural norm, then that is exactly what we do: avoid the brown button. In a moment of passion, who can work with the unknown? I think it is necessary to become familiar with one's own back door, to treat it like another part of the body. A great way to do this is in the shower. I am sure you are like me and like to soap up the cock and balls in the shower. I have fun, but usually not enough to get hard. I just like to touch myself, good clean fun. The same can go for you crack and butt hole. They like soap too. It is easy to slide a finger in. I am used to it, and look forward to cleaning out that place. I am now familiar with what it feels like to have a finger go in. I like to admit I like it. Confess that to a horny guy, and he will finger you too. One thing I don't practice enough is taking things up the ass. The hole is a farther reach, the cock asks for the hand, and they stay together. It takes a mental effort to reach lower, let the fingers move down the crack to the hole. When my fingers get there, my balls jump. All guys jerk off. Only men into men go and touch this place. I smell my finger, and again my cock jumps and I clamp down. I think about taking it up the ass, and lick my fingers like a cock. Now that my finger is all lubed with saliva, I know I will be entering myself. My legs relax, but my hips go in motion. Not much, you probably would notice it, but I do. A slow rocking motion that says you are welcome to enter me here. I finger circles then intended target, a little tease. The finger pad gets place right on the hole and presses. I learned this little trick from a sex educator from San Francisco. With the finger pressing gently against the door, turn it 90 degrees, and it slips right in, that first sweet quarter of an inch. My finger is steady, but passive. My hips and hole do the work of grabbing for more. If a guy is fucking you, it is a mistake to lay there and take it. Instead, go out and bring it in, hips and hole working together to tell your man you need more of him. Some guys go overboard - he is the top, he set the rhythm - so roll with him, but learn to work him so you can fuck together, strong man in strong bitch. Give him a moving target to nail, and he will. I like a finger crammed in deep. One finger is so easy to get in and ride deep. I do find one finger is satisfying. I am able to reach my prostrate, get that feeling of filled and fucked from the inside. Lets talk about dildos. When I don't have a human partner, dildos can be great. Based on my personal experience, I think silicon dildos should be outlawed, or at least driven to a minor player in the dildo market instead of some 90% market share. Spend some time thinking about all those things you love about cocks...should be a nice long list that gets your own bone to boner. Cocks love other cocks, the basic fact of homosexual liaisons. Start with the skin, so soft. Think of the shaft, firm but still a bit spongie. And warm. That's what I want to suck, that's what I want up my ass. Silicon dildos have none of those qualities. The outer surface is slick plastic, and the shaft is so hard it can be used as a weapon. Look for "cyberskin" dildos. Go ahead, take time out from reading this story and buy one now. I just took my cyberskin dildo out of the toy bag. There is no way to stop me from sucking on it, taking it into my mouth until you reach that point where cock sucking competes with breathing, and cock sucking wins. Dildos look sexier covered with saliva. I like to rub my cock against the dildo, shaft against shaft, balls against balls. I can do this kind of rubbing for a good long time, cock against cock. There is more to explore, so I let the dildo go to my crack. It just feels nice to be touched there when I am horny. If I am practicing for a man to fuck me, I need at least three fingers. The second finger is pretty easy. It is the third that opens up the hole as a circle, and that does take practice and lube. Work on speed and comfort for getting three fingers spreading open your back door to invite gentleman in. There is so much blood in the loins when guys are getting it on, horny guys are stupid. I know I am, lost in lust. And a horny guy who has been licking my bubble butt hole just wants to get his cock in there. Being a slut, I want that too. I have the three finger rule which is simple enough for me to follow when I am swimming in the sounds and smells of sex: a three finger fuck before cock up the ass. It is clear when your man wants to enter you, reaching for a condom is the yellow flag. If no finger have opened the door, and he is rolling the condom down his glorious hard tool, one you recently swallowed all the way down to the base, you need to get those three lubed fingers up there fast. It is just a skill, there is no magic. Lube and go one, two, three. Do not be afraid of opening it too much: you can and will be clamping down on him once he enters. I may try following the four finger rule. It is like this. If the first time he positions himself to move into you, he does slide in with easy, and you feel not the slightest pain, you are going to have a great anal sex session. I know I can do a three finger fuck from a dry, tight hole in under twenty seconds. I have timed it. This is a fun game to practice. Having this skill gives you great confidence: if he forgets to open you up, then while he is packaging his sword in a condom, you can be opening your hole up wide enough to take him. My dildo session evolve the same way. Once that third finger in and opening that tight hole, I feel the need to fill that hole with cock. It is SO exciting to have a cock head pressed right up against the lubed and slippery hole. It takes a little pressure to get in. How much pressure depends on how well the fingers have prepared the hole for the job. It is really great when it require little pressure, and you can focus on the feeling of being full of cock. This feeling is different from anything you can do with your own cock. What I like so much about it is you can see a man being as manly as a man can get, he is fucking. You feel his rhythm of fucking, how his fucking changes as he fucks you more. There is too much to keep track of, but in my confused fucked bitch state, I try and do a few things. I like to kiss and lick my man as he pounds me, if possible. You can tell how much effort he is putting into you. I try to remember to keep clamping down on his driving cock. I tighten my hole, my abs, my arms, so he knows he is fucking a strong man. Sometimes I need to relax, just look around, look down and see his hips driving into me, so hot, it gets me to kiss him again. See, that's what happens when I work my dildo, I think explicitly about how men have fucked me, what I like about having men fuck me. It is all about getting the mind very ready to be fucked, practicing the mechanics, so when the guy goes for the condom, you know what to do to enjoy it. Once I have a dildo up the ass, I don't last too long. There is an important difference in how I cum: I create almost twice the volume of cum. The internal prostrate message gets the prostrate to work overtime. Sometimes I read in sex ads that a guy new to all this very stimulating stuff wants to find another first timer. Not a good idea. Sex requires technique, man 2 man sex requires more technique, so someone in the room should know from their sexperience what to do. The two rookies would have lots of energy, but the awkwardness could kill the coupling. Much better would be to find a veteran top. Avoid guys who say they are "total tops" which translates to a guy who fucks without listening. Find an older guy who is out. They love to demonstrate how the deed between two men is done. They can be very understanding with your confusion over how strong your desire to get laid can be. Of course they will take advantage of that and fuck you, but that is what you both want. If you practice, you really can enjoy taking it.